Trip Report Blog

Ok so I go to this sleepaway camp for 3 weeks each summer (i’ve been going for 4 years now) and I sort of keep the same circle of friends each summer. Last year our friend Nate was sort of nerdy, and just kinda there (no one really paid much attention to him) but he came back this year and, I really don’t want to sound shallow, but holy moly he got really hott. And I sort of started liking him, for more reasons than his looks, don’t get me wrong. Then about half way through the 3 weeks everyone sort of knew (including him) and we found out that he liked our friend Becca. Honestly though, I can’t blame him. She’s a realy nice person, an amazing singer and actress and I just know she’s going to be famous one day. I seriously don’t know how I thought I could compare to her.

But nonetheless I still liked him. And then cruise night came (the third to last night at our camp we go on a cruise through the boston harbor, it’s sort of like a big dance on a boat) and every 5 minutes he would be asking “Where’s Becca?” “Do you know where Becca is?” “Have you seen Becca?” and then I found out from my roommate and friend that he had asked her to Cruise Night with him. I guess this was like the straw that broke the camel’s back for me, so to speak. I knew that he liked her, and that she did NOT like him and would never do that to me, but still just the fact that he would still ask her knowing all this was like a giant stab in the chest. Needless to say I spent the rest of that night in tears.

For the about the next day I was completely over him. I know i’m being selfish and shallow here, but I was awed by the fact that a guy could be so rude as to still ask her to go with him when he knows the answer is no and he knows it was going to hurt me.

(Keep in mind this is all over the course of 3 days- though at this camp time seems to move slower.) Slowly we started to talk to each other again, swallow our pride and ignore the awkwardness. I knew he felt terrible about making me cry, so I didn’t want to push the issue. Then on the last night after showing the end of camp slide show we had a short 45 minute dance, and of course they played the usual one slow song. (Beautiful by Christina Augilera- the typical unromantic slow dance). And to my serious shock he asked me to dance with him, though the way he said it made me positive it was out of pity for me. Like he knew I wanted to dance with him, and I wouldn’t say no.

At that moment my disgust at him for hurting me on cruise night meant absolutely nothing. It was also my first slow dance with anyone besides a joking girl friend.

It was obviously not a serious dance, we talked through the whole thing; the cliche song choice, how we were both going to cry when everyone leaves the next day, etc.

Then of course the next day every leaves, we cry, hug, say goodbye. And then we were texting while I waited in the airport and he drove home. My plane was going to board soon so I made the snap decision to just out right ask him so I wouldn’t be stressing over it on the ride home while my phone was off. I texted him saying “Ok, so I have to turn my phone off soon so i’m just going to ask this, and be honest: was that dance last night a pity-dance?” and his exact responce was “Idk, Monica [my roommate] was yelling at me and you looked sad and i’m just tired of everyone being upset.” so basicallly i took this as obviously a pity dance.

Now I know that from all of this it would be extremely stupid for me to still like him. I know for a fact he doesn’t like me, and ultimately feels SORRY for me. So why do I still like him? I text him constantly and we talk daily so it’s not like i have no idea what he’s up to. The topic of me still liking him hasn’t come up since that text from the airport. I don’t know if I should talk to him about it, or just ignore everything and see what happens next year at camp, or what.

Incase anyone needs to know for an answer, I’m 14 (going into 9th grade)

Huge thank you to anyone who could offer some advice, or words of wisdom.

It still drops after i drive a while. What could be the problem. Also when i set the cruise and the speedometer drops the cruise goes out. Why?

wich is sexier/better actor/richer?

Yeah and why do the automatically you’re rich. They try to overprice stuff. and they street you respectfully and it’s not just the merchants.

it’s the mexican rivera cruise

go on a cruise for vacation during the winter??

Be stuck on an elevator in a burning building with Spongebob Squarepants, sinking on a sink with Leonardo DiCaprio or have to spend a entire day doing nothing but listening to Tom Cruise talk about Scientology?

see every now and then my car wont pull in d4 so i have to shift it down d2 then back up to d4….and i can be driving fine in d4 and out of the blue it seems like it drops in 2nd gear by its self…i dont know what can be causing this but it is driving me crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ok, My entire family is planning a cruise next summer. I was planning a cruise with my husband and two preteen boys before this was brought up. There are certain people in my family that have been extremely hateful openly even in front of my kids towards me. I made a choice to avoid family functions, so I would not end up in tears every holiday. So now My brother has told me these 4 people will be attending this cruise. I feel I will be stressed out, hurt, and unable to enjoy my personal family if we attend. The down side is I look like the bad gal. I tried for years. What would you do. Should I pass, should I go
I do love my extended family.. but I love myself and my kids more.
These are not inlaws, this is my Aunt, cousin, blood.
The last two years were hell, and I stopped attending functions this year. My kids do not understand.
Really great advice so far

please answer and please include big fat tom in your answer

Our family is thinking about going on a 5 day Eastern Caribbean Cruise by Carnival. The ports are Nassau, Half Moon Cay, and Grand Turk. Do you think that 5 days are enough to have fun on a cruise? What are your other thoughts about this cruise?